Device Use While We’re All at Home: Good, Better, Best
Best Case Scenario
- Set and maintain limits. Kids need consistency- something that is extra hard right now. This means setting rules and standards for your kids and expecting them to abide by them. Try to stick to routines, even in the midst of this strange stay-at-home life we’re all stuck in.
- Make a technology use plan. The plan should include how much time kids can play video games online with friends, and where their devices will charge at night. For help creating a Family Media Plan visit Healthy Children.
- Challenge children to practice “tech self-control“. Encourage your kids to turn off the TV, tablet, or video game themselves – rather than your reminding them.
- Help your kids do other things. Help your child make a plan for what they would like to do with their time. You can give them some ideas by creating a choice board or menu of options for them, or simply by writing down some choices on a sheet of paper. Once they decide what they want to do, help them gather the materials they will need and get them started on the task. Once they are started, you can check in every so often and praise them for sticking with the task.
Practice what you preach. It’s tempting to keep reaching for your phone to check email, texts, Facebook, or the news. But your kids will be the first to call you out for not “walking the talk.” Plus, they’ll pick up habits from you. Model the media behavior that you want your kids to emulate.
- Don’t feel guilty about doing your own work! Lindsay Powers, who runs the No Shame Parenting Instagram account says this:
The first tip here is to LOSE the guilt around device use. Pediatricians are saying more and more that it isn’t about the AMOUNT of screen time but the CONTENT & CONTEXT of screen time. Mike Robb, PhD from Common Sense Media says this:
“If kids are engaged with high-quality content that stokes curiosity and fuels imagination, who’s to say that should end when they’ve hit their screen limit? Research has also uncovered the importance of kids’ experience with media, based on who uses media with kids (siblings? parents?), the purpose of the content (school? entertainment?), and who’s talking with kids about what they’re watching (Daniel Tiger and Tiger King both make for great mealtime conversation). In other words: Context matters, too.”
Other experts advise ensuring that technology use does not take the place of sleep, physical activity, reading, reflective downtime, or family connection. Basically, the idea is that technology isn’t bad in itself. It is dangerous when it takes away from other activities that we need to do to be healthy human beings.
Finally, follow your kids’ cues. If you find your child ONLY wants to be in front of the screen, is more irritable, depressed or has excessive tantrums or mood swings these might be signs to lessen screen time.
For those days when you have a screaming toddler or a screaming boss to deal with, didn’t sleep that well the night before and aren’t on your A Game, here are a few tips that may make leaving your child alone with an iPad less guilt inducing.
- Podcasts and audio books are great ways to keep children’s minds engaged while parents get things done. They are ‘technologies’ that don’t involve screens, so you get a point for ‘no screen time’!
- Be selective about what your children watch. Use trusted sources to find positive content, such as Common Sense Media, which has been compiling lots of ideas for families hunkering down right now.
- If kids are missing their school friends or other family, try video chats or social media to stay in touch.
- If you let them run free, consider using parental controls. Here are some good resources on the pros and cons of using parental controls by age group. Free Parental Controls include Screen Time (for Apple devices), Family Link (from Google, available on Android and Apple devices), and Digital Wellbeing (for Android devices). Caroline Knorr of Common Sense Media shared a few other ‘safety tips’ in a recent email newsletter.
- Use privacy settings. Your kid should make their online accounts private and enable all available restrictions that prevent total strangers from contacting them. Tell them not to respond to any contacts they don’t recognize.
- Recognize red-flag feelings. Sexting, cyber-bullying, and harassment can all crop up when kids chat. Encourage your kid to trust their gut if something makes them feel uncomfortable and to block and report anything inappropriate. Also, never move a chat off the original platform, with a few exceptions.
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